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Ethical Dilemma [Dec. 24th, 2008|08:35 am]
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A young woman is driving home from work. It has been snowing and icy for several days. It is just after dark and she pulls over to put tire chains on her car. Her father and some male friends have helped her learn how to do so.

A stranger who has been wandering along the side of the highway walks into the parking lot and begins walking toward her. They are on the outer edge of a smaller town. He is dressed very raggedy and is missing some teeth.

This man calls out to her, telling her that she can't possibly know how to put the chains on. Startled, she insists that she knows perfectly well what she's doing, and gets back to work on it, ignoring the stranger.

He asks her where her husband is, and why he's not helping her. She repeats that she is perfectly capable of putting the chains on herself. He asks if after she's done, he can have a ride. It's very cold out.

She responds very sharply, saying no, she does not give rides to strangers. He says that he is not a stranger and that it's so cold out. She moves to the other side to work on the other chain, and he continues to talk as he walks away from her, toward the mini-mart. She ignores him.

Was this young woman uncharitable? Would it have been different if she was a young man? Your thoughts!
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A Bit of a Crush, Really. [Dec. 15th, 2008|08:31 pm]
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As posted on my journal...

I'm a total believer in what goes around comes around. I feel like if you are ok with you, then most of the time, others will mirror how you feel back to you. I believe that if you aren't confident about yourself, then the same thing will happen again. I say this because lately, I have been getting an overwhelming response to my looks. A lot of men are telling me how pretty they think I am. They just say it matter-of-factly. Like I told you in a recent post, this one really hot guy told me just how hot he thought I was. I was just floored. I guess, deep down, I know I am a child of God, and God doesn't make junk, and that I am a beautiful person, but it has taken me off guard lately. It's kind of amusing that guys lately have just been blurting it out randomly. Like, 'oh by the way, I think you are pretty...I think you look great...you're very cute...I think you are hot.." I want to believe it, mainly because most of the time, I think I am average, which I probably am, but sometimes I think that it's nice to hear what guys are thinking, most of the time. It's kind of refreshing.

It makes me wonder though, what am I doing different? I really don't know. I'm not doing anything really different. No new perfume, or way I wear my hair, etc etc.

I don't know how that segues into the 'Mass guy' but I want to talk about him. Last week, not yesterday, I was way too sick to attend Mass. I assume "Mass guy' was there, knowing a little of what I do know of him. He was there last night. I don't know why I am so drawn to him, but that I am. I haven't had the courage to speak to him yet. I was just thinking that maybe it's because he's a Catholic guy, goes to Mass on a regular basis, has a deep voice, tall, attractive to me, dresses appropriately, can carry a tune, wants to be at Mass all on his own, apparrently lives in close proximity to me, goes to my parish and seemingly single and unattached. Even the way he says 'amen' is cute to me--I guess you have to be there to find it amusing.lol It was so awesome to watch him take communion last night...ok random thought. :) I have such a big crush on him. lol I don't know what to do. I guess the easy thing to tell me is to just walk up to him and say hello, but that's easier said that done. I wish I had that sort of courage. I guess if I didn't care so much, why I do, I don't know, but if I didn't care so much, I would. Usually I'm pretty forward...I tell guys right away if I like them. But him. I don't know. I don't want to make a fool of myself. I think what I like most about him is how in tune he is with God during the Mass. It's really attractive. He's either discerning the seminary or he's praying for a future wife. That's my idea. The only thing I can think of is start praying for him.

Even though other guys are telling me they think I am pretty, I am still a little nervous to just strike up a conversation with this man. If he wasn't at Church, or maybe he is, if he was randomly placed in your world, what would you do in my place? I need some advice. lol
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God Willing [Nov. 24th, 2008|01:50 am]
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[mood |flirtyflirty]

I ended up going to the 6 o'clock Mass this evening. I really only went that late because I have been too lazy to do laundry, and plus it's Sunday, so I kind of vegged out all day. It's what Sunday is for, I think. Anyway, I ended up going to the six o'clock Mass. I actually put on makeup, and curled my hair. I wasn't wearing anything special, but I did try to look nice. I didn't think anything of it, and I sat down in the pew. Well. This guy sat like, I don't know, maybe three feet away from me in another pew. From the moment he sat down, I was kind of drawn to him. I don't know why. He was attractive--he had blond hair and blue eyes--but that wasn't exactly it. I noticed right away that he came in by himself. Usually, especially at my parish, men are usually one of three things, 1.) married with kids, 2.) discerning the priesthood, or 3.) too young for me. Yes, mischa8, you can laugh at me now. lol That's the way it is. I don't usually find someone who I think is attractive that is actually single and seemingly available. I don't normally try to look for anyone, but when you are trying to find someone who actually cares about his faith, Catholic, and single, I think Church is the best place to start. I'm not there to pick up guys, or shouldn't be, but that doesn't mean I don't notice. lol I tried my absolute best not to just start staring at him. I kept making quick glances, well as quick as I could, from the corner of my eye, so I could size him up, and see what I thought of him. When the offetory rite came along, the collection plate, I kind of had to look at him directly. I could look at him directly, I should say. lol He was cute. rofl And I have to say that he sang every song, like he knew the words, and prayed every prayer like he really meant it. I think that's what did it for me. lol His singing voice was very good, not out of tune and deep. I think he heard my singing voice as well. I don't like to say much, but some people, complete strangers, have told me, at Mass, that I have a good voice. I don't know if that's true or not, and I don't like to just assume it's true, but that's what people tell me. The kids who sat in front of me turned around when I started singing, and I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing, but I assume he heard my voice. I wasn't trying to sing louder so he could hear me either. hahaha I think he did though. When the 'sign of peace' came around, he made an obvious gesture to me, and he had a firm handshake, and looked me directly in my eyes. It was kind of cool. Maybe that's just the way he does it. I don't know, he seemed like he was really interested in being there, which is always a plus to me. Oh, and when Mass was over, he left when I left, I don't know how to explain that, but it was like he was waiting for me to get up and walk out, or something. Maybe I am seeing things I don't know. Then, as I walked out, and I have to say there are like five or six different doors to leave in the front vestibule, he was standing directly behind me. It was really cool. lol No, he didn't say anything to me, but he made an impression on me, and it felt, but who knows, that he was trying to get up the courage to say something to me, but didn't, yet. I'm so gonna go to the six o'clock Mass next week, and see what happens. rofl
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Hello my lovelies [Aug. 16th, 2008|10:50 pm]
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Well it is I, your community maintainer, although this community has not been all that well maintained.

I'm looking for thoughts. When people from your past approach you and grill you on your relationship status...what do you do?

I hate to admit it, but the fact that I'm still single occasionally gets me down. Normally I am very positive and upbeat, but with a lot of my friends either getting into new relationships, or taking a new step in relationships lately, they obviously have less time for me ;) so I'm feeling a little neglected and lonely.

Then, at a wedding last weekend, my old youth minister (who was SOOO behind me in getting me started on a career, when I was in high school at least!) came up to me. First thing she did was inspect my left hand for a ring. Nada. The dialogue went like this:

her: No ring?
me: nope, no ring.
her: anyone that might give you a ring anytime soon?
me: no, not really.
her: any men that like you?
me: um...not that I know of.
her: well there are plenty of men around her that recently left the seminary
me: [practically choking on my hors d'ouvres] umm...I've tried that before and been burned really badly...
her: oh...well then...[walks off]

I realize I am being oversensitive, but I think that was kind of rude, she didn't even ask me what I'm up to (which, I think is pretty interesting, I graduated from college a little more than a year ago, and have been holding down a really great and interesting job for over 8 months now). I know I should just brush it off, especially since I haven't been close to her in years, but it just hurts...a lot. For god's sake I'm only 24. Maybe in my impossibly small town where nobody even goes to college anyway that's old-maid status, but not in most of the world.

Anyone have any hints for dealing with people who are rude like this? Do you just not respond like I did? Do you politely let them know that they've overstepped their bounds? What do you think?
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random question [Jun. 7th, 2008|09:09 pm]
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Ok, so I'm honestly torn about the question below. I want to date someone, there are a zillion Catholics where I'm at, but it's hard for me to meet people, due to both personal and circumstantial reasons. So I'm toying with (re)joining a Catholic singles site. I just wanted general opinion on whether or not you think that dating internet sites are cool or cheesy. Again, I see arguments for both sides, so I was curious as to others' opinions. Thanks!

Hope you all are having a fabulous day, and happy date hunting!

Catholic Internet Dating Sites - cool or cheesy?

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To the fans of the Lego Church Project.. [Apr. 28th, 2008|01:47 pm]
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Hey.. just wanted to let you guys know.. that I have an official blog for my one and only Lego Church Project!


Check it out and let me know what you think! The building for the new season is going to be starting sooner than you think!

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(no subject) [Apr. 15th, 2008|09:59 pm]
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Hey all! Just checking in. How is everybody?

I have been thinking a lot lately, and the more I build back up my relationship with God, the more I realize that He has instilled in me some great values. I'm pretty sure I know just what I am looking for in a mate, and every time I start to doubt myself is where I mess up. I know what I want, I know what God wants for me, and I think they match up! Now it is time to actively wait; to use this time to grow into the woman God wants me to be.

My life is stretching me in two very different directions. I have a pretty "heavy" job (I'm a child welfare caseworker--I work with families where children have been removed from their homes due to a safety threat. Usually domestic violence or methamphetamine use) and it's forcing me to grow up a little, yet many of my friends are still college students so I very much am stubbornly clinging to being "young." It's an interesting transition and to be honest, I'm having fun with it. And I feel like I'm meant to. I get a little impatient now and again for God to help me find that "somebody" but I really think he's got it all planned out. The closer I am to Him the more peace I feel about it.

Grace and peace to all of you!
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Where is everyone... [Mar. 2nd, 2008|10:20 pm]
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Wow.. haven't seen anyone post anything on this board in a while.

Not much going on with me. Finished up a season for my Lego Church Project.


Check it out.

Hey, if you have some old legos.. or knows someone who has some legos they don't want, listen up! You don't have to throw them away. Donate them to the one and only Lego Church Project!

(Sorry, I had to put a shamless plug in).

Ya know, what really is bad is that I'm moving in a few weeks.. to a better part of town.. and I'm still single...

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An angel to the rescue [Feb. 12th, 2008|11:56 pm]
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[mood |sleepysleepy]

[x-posted to my own journal; please excuse duplication]

I ran across this on Zenit:

Dateless? An Angel to the Rescue: Web Site Offers Novena Prayer to St. Raphael

I'm totally doing this! Actually, I have prayed novenas to St. Raphael in the past. It's probably a habit I should re-build, now that my life seems to be taking off in all kinds of new directions.

The Web site mentioned in the article lists a few different prayers, but I think I shall use this one below, which I consider the most powerful and beautiful, and the most suitable for my state in life and my heart's desires:

O Raphael, lead us towards those we are waiting for, those who are waiting for us! Raphael, Angel of Happy Meetings and Catholic singles, lead us by the hand towards those we are looking for! May all our movements, all their movements, be guided by your Light and transfigured by your Joy. Angel Guide of Tobias, lay the request we now address to you at the feet of Him on whose unveiled Face you are privileged to gaze. Lonely and tired, crushed by the separations and sorrows of earth, we feel the need of calling to you and of pleading for the protection of your wings, so that we may not be as strangers in the Province of Joy, all ignorant of the concerns of our country. Remember the weak, you who are strong--you whose home lies beyond the region of thunder, in a land that is always peaceful, always serene, and bright with the resplendent glory of God. Amen.

Of course, one of the great things about St. Raphael is his versatility! You just have to love the wide array of services he provides. He keeps away nightmares. He brings us to union with friends and spouses and other relations. He administers healing to our bodies, minds, and souls. He presents our prayers to God. He watches over travelers. He guides the young. He accompanies the lonely.

He's a great person to turn to--and probably not nearly as well-known or as often turned to as he should be!
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(no subject) [Feb. 3rd, 2008|01:25 pm]
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hey everyone, just wanted to drop you all a line to generate some interest in us.

our mission at thedailygood is to provide one thing you can do every day to improve the world around you. it can be big or small, but we thought we'd help get the ball rolling on bringing something positive back into life.

please add, send ideas, and tell all your friends. thanks!
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